Last Updated: Jan 20, 2020
Discovering your prostate gland isn’t that difficult, but pleasuring it in an erotic and comfortable way takes a bit of time and a methodical approach. Unfortunately, however, there aren’t many guides or tips available online to help you discover this secret kink zone – until now. This article goes in-depth on how to insert a prostate massager.
Before you go and get frisky, be sure to follow these six important steps to inserting a prostate massager safely. After all, this guide just might save you from the most embarrassing emergency room visit of your life.
1. Clean Prostate Massager
Be sure to thoroughly clean the prostate massager both before and after use with soapy, warm water. Most massagers are waterproof, so there is no need (in most cases) to worry about getting shocked or damaging your lavish sex toy. And like most Fleshlights, you’ll find that some massagers are dishwasher-safe; however, a hand towel, hot water, and a well ventilated area to dry will work just as effectively.
2. Clean Yourself
If addition to cleaning the prostate massager, you’ll want to do some personal hygiene as well. Prior to getting started, consider cleaning your anal passage using an enema. The purpose of a cleansing enema is to gently flush out the colon. A cleansing enema should stimulate the bowels to quickly expel both the solution and any impacted fecal matter.
If you plan to use an enema at home, be sure that all of the equipment you are using has been sterilized and that you have a lubricant on hand. To decrease the pressure felt in your colon, empty your bladder before you begin the enema. You might also want to put down a towel in the area between your bathtub and your toilet, just in case fluids leak out of your bowels when you get up to empty your colon.
Side note, it’s important to measure and mark your enema tube the first time you use it so that you do not insert the tube more than 4 inches into your rectum. 
3. Get Comfortable
Whichever type of prostate massager you decide to go for, using them is much the same. Position yourself comfortably, either on your back or sides with your legs raised or bent with your upper body resting on a couch or bed. These positions will help you relax and are the best positions for guiding the massager towards your prostate.
4. Apply Lubricant
Once you are ready, apply an anal lubricant like Sliquid Sassy Water-Based Anal Lubricant to both yourself and the toy – this will make stimulation both easy and pain-free. If this is your first time indulging in anal play then make sure to go slow and steady.
Speaking about lubricants, Sliquid Sassy uses plant cellulose as a thickening agent, instead of glycerin or other sugar derivatives that can cause yeast infections. All Sliquid products are formulated by sensible women, for sensitive women, and will never cause yeast infections or UTI’s. 
5. Insert Prostate Massager
The most important thing to remember when learning how to insert a prostate massager is to start slow. If you are feeling any sort of discomfort, remove the massager and apply more lube to both the toy and yourself.
If you are not yet relaxed, take some time first to massage the exterior of your anus using your index and middle fingers. When the time is right, your anus should invite the toy inside; not reject it.
When using a prostate massager, experimentation is key. Once you have inserted the toy, start with a rubbing motion, moving your finger around the prostate gland, making a mental note of which areas feel especially pleasing. You can then try applying more pressure to the area and seeing what effect it has on your body.
Many men will find that with the more pressure they apply to the prostate gland, the closer they feel to orgasm but remember that you can reduce the force at any time to slow things down.
At the end of the day, you – and only you – will be able to tell what feels good and what feels uncomfortable. For example, try an up-and-down motion, where the toy strokes over the prostate gland rapidly, for more intense stimulation. A lot of our readers rave about the sensations this method can cause, but others argue it is ineffective.
Further, some men find that they can achieve a hands-free orgasm by clenching and releasing their muscles and letting the toy move with the body. This method is particularly effective when using an advanced prostate massager like the Aneros Vice Silicone Vibrating Prostate Massager.
The Aneros range of prostate massagers are regarded as the very best non-vibrating prostate massagers, and are known for their ability to give men long, powerful, hands-free orgasms and come in a range of sizes and shapes.
What Is A Prostate Massager?
A prostate massager or vibrator is a male sex toy designed specifically to stimulate a man’s prostate gland. Many men start experimenting with prostate sex toys once they’ve discovered the area with their fingers first, although that of course is not required.
If you’ve never experienced the tantalizing thrill of prostate play, then you’re missing out. Conveniently located just a few inches inside the wall of the anus located nearest the stomach, this internal erogenous zone is sometimes referred to as the male G-spot, called the P-spot, and massaging it can lead to mind-blowing full-body orgasms, hands-free ‘super O’s and even multiple climaxes.
Most prostate massagers have a rounded head to ensure stimulation in the correct spot and a tapered tip to ease with insertion process. Some prostate massagers even feature an external vibrator to give special attention to the perineum, a sensitive area between the anus and the scrotum. 
How To Insert A Prostate Massager
In summary, there are six steps you must follow in order to know how to insert a prostate massager: Clean the massager, clean yourself, get comfortable, apply lubricants, insert the massager, and last but not least, experiment.
Like the proverb by William Edward Hickson says, “If at first you don’t succeed; try, try, try again”. If the first prostate toy you try doesn’t knock your socks off, don’t get discouraged. Using a prostate massager effectively takes time and practice. You will be able to find an alternative – smaller, bigger, vibrating, non vibrating – that works for you.
That being said, although at first glance a larger prostate massager may seem more advanced, the bigger ones are actually ideal for beginners as they find your P-spot much more quickly. The smaller the surface area of the massager, like the Aneros Vice Prostate Massager we mentioned above, the harder it will be to find the prostate gland but the more intense the experience.
Additionally, deciding on whether you want a prostate massager with vibrations or not is a personal choice. Just remember – you can turn vibrations off if you don’t like them but you can’t add them to a non-vibrating prostate massager.